User blog comment:Taldin/Making the New Year Different/@comment-27659888-20170117024426

Thanks for the post Taldin!

If you don't mind I would like to add my tidbits of wisdom in bringing change into your life: Is be prepared for when you fail.

Very few people bring change in their life on the first go. So you need to resolve within yourself what you will do when you fail. What will that mean? How do you resolve the emotional conflict within you that you missed that goal. Who are you if you fail? Are you any less than when you started the journey? If you can resolve ahead of time that you wont be, so when you fail it easier to pick yourself up again and try again.

I found by doing this I can start making plans so when I'm "skirting along the edge of failing" I can swing them in action. For example, if I am trying to quit something, I determine a "hiding place" for my thoughts and emotions to focus on.

Or if I am trying to put a positive habit in my life and the Habitica dailies are not quite cutting for me. (This is rare because that Daily task list is such a motivator) I will either schedule the habit to be either first thing or last thing so it just gets done.

As you stated Taldin, Momentum/inertia takes time to build. If I realise it going to take me a few goes before I can walk let alone run, I cope with failing a little bit better and thus not be sideline by disappointment.